Tuesday, May 20, 2008

How hard is it to parent?

Before having the first child, many will be unaware of how difficult it can be. For the first couple of years, there is the knowledge that the child might wake up through the night and keep the parent or parents up, but few will think about how difficult it can be as the child grows. As kids grow up, they start to lose their dependence on the parent and become more independent in their actions, thoughts and views. Most will forget that while teenage years are the best known years for independent growth, younger years can be just as full of trouble depending on the young individual.

Different individuals will grow at a different rate from others. Everyone is different and this includes all ages, including younger children. Some will take longer to lose their dependence while others will seem to trade it in for more dependence at a younger age. While many generalizations about parenting exist, there are some things that some parents will have more difficulty with their kids than others will. Most of these differences will often depend on the situation of the family, how the parents bring up their children, how much the attention the child gets and whether they have enough to keep them busy. Children who have inherited different genetic problems and diseases can be more difficult to raise, especially if they spend a lot of time in the hospital or they are older and have a pretty good understanding about what problems they are suffering from. Whether the child is perfectly healthy or afflicted with health problems, there are a number of difficulties that the parents will have to go through as the child grows and works through their stages of development.

Parenting is not an easy responsibility and definitely not something to take lightly. A parent is responsible for the proper care and development of each little person they decide to have. In fact, some expectant parents will panic over whether or not they can handle being responsible for the life they are about to bring into the world. It can be an overwhelming situation at any time during the child’s growth; from before they are born until they are eighteen and ready to leave the house. It is normal for parents to become stressed out over parenting, especially if they are a single parent.

Therapists and counselors can help parents who are stressing out over their role as parents. The stress is not good for the parents and it is certainly not good for the child. Children are surprisingly perceptive and can easily pick up on the emotions of their parents. Being stressed can also have a negative impact on how someone will parent their children and this is not healthy when trying to maintain a strong, healthy bond with the child. Rifts can occur and continue to grow until the family unit is broken. Online therapy can help parents to get advice and suggestions on the things that they can do in order to make their lives easier. It can be helpful to families who already have problems or even families who do not have problems yet. Seeking out the helpful advice before problems set in is always the best course of action. Contacting a therapist or counselor about raising a child can eliminate many of the problems that new parents will often face. They can help turn the parenting experience into something less stressful and more enjoyable.

Monday, May 19, 2008

Still trying to move forward?

Okay, the presentation is next week and I am getting better at working on it. Not sure why I cannot seem to get in gear for this. This is the end of a long road for me and I should be motivated and excited, guess what, I'm not. Not sure why. I am not used to this, I am really good at moving forward, but this is too much for me. I am still going to do this and I know there is something in me that will make this happen. How I am not sure, but I know that I have it in me to do this, so I will just do it. Does anyone else ever feel like they cannot move forward?

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

The best

Still struggling with the idea of moving forward in my life. I thought about going to therapy because therapy works so well for the people that I see, but I cannot seem to make myself do it. I am so good and making others feel good about themselves, but I somehow do not think that the same concept applies to me. Silly me. I just cannot seem to accept when my fiance calls me "the best". He is the best and tells me that I am, not sure how two people can be the best. My family jokes around with me about how great he is, and he is, he is my rock and my rockstar, my bestfriend, you get the point. I just want to be the best person for him, myself and my upcoming family. Life is what you make it and I am determined to make it the best.

Friday, May 9, 2008

Mo ving forward

Still working on my presentation, I got a call from school, well not exactly, asked numerous times if I had all my requirements to graduate and they said yes. Well, of course I got word that they did not have some of my information. Thank goodness I save everything that pertains to school and I had all my old records. I was able to fax everything to them and all was saved until the next issue that comes up. That is all for now.

Wednesday, May 7, 2008


Well, got my defense date and I am one step closer to graduation. I am almost graduating, but still do not believe it. I do not know when I will believe it, so I will keep on going as I am graduating. I am proscrating which I do not do, but I will try to work on my presentation tomorrow. Wish me luck.

Monday, May 5, 2008


Wahoo, I am graduating, well after I present my ACP and my chair approves of it. I have been doing edits and rewrites for a long time now. I know now what the term bitter sweet is because I am excited to graduate and nervous at the same time. I still do not think it is real and I do not know when it will sink in. I picked up my cap and gown today, so it should be real. Getting married seems real to me and I am ready for that, but graduation seems to be a foreign concept to me that I will have to get used too. Thats all for today.

Friday, May 2, 2008


Well, it is official, I am domesticated. I cooked dinner last night for my divorced parents and they both loved it. I am one of the fortunate one that my parents get a long and I can have them at the same table without any arguments. I am not sure how real this relationship is, but it still work for me. I have never cooked for my dad before so he got to see me in action. This is the first time he has been to my new home and only the second time he has met my future husband. The night was a hit and I will go on with my domesticated ways for now. Happy weekend!

Thursday, May 1, 2008


Okay I am back. Haven't posted on here in awhile. I am about to graduate, finally and I am moving foward with the wedding plans. It seems like all my dreams are coming true, so why I am not very happy. Not sure, aren't you supposed to be happy when all of your dreams come true. I think that if you are really dreaming then it is okay, but if it is reality, then you have to realize that more things could happen to change those dreams. So, what do you do, do you stop believing in your dreams or do you keep on dreaming? Any suggestions.